A happy home doesn’t just happen. It requires a willing heart, diligence and commitment. As moms and wives we have a super-power, the power to create a happy and peaceful solace away from a not-so-friendly world.
If you desire a happier home, you have to resolve to change. I know, I know. Making resolutions has become trite and mundane. Does anybody really care about these proclamations of desire and willingness to improve some not-so-right areas in our lives?
If you have never taken time to sit down and ponder upon some of the shortcomings in your own life, I challenge you to try it. No one has to know about it. If you fail one day, don’t give up. Face the next day with lessons learned and with a fresh attitude of commitment. Your family deserves a happy home, don’t you think?
Challenging ourselves to be better moms and wives is a very positive strategy we can use to improve the happiness meter of our home. If we never strive to be sweeter wives, more loving moms and better home-makers we can easily develop a complacent attitude about our home life. I would love for you to seriously consider these five areas of motherhood and marriage as you seek to make a happier home for your family. Give yourself an honest evaluation and see if you can step up a notch or two in these areas. Sure, we rare going to fail sometimes in this motherhood and marriage journey, but let’s choose to give it our best, every single day, so that one day we will see our families live happily ever after.
Six Resolutions for a Happier Home
- Stop nagging your husband. We moms are busy and work hard, but so do our spouses. Try to consider that, yes you may have a leaky sink or uncut grass, but your husband has other responsibilities as well. Sure, ask your husband to fix those things, but don’t ask him to fix it every waking moment he is at home. Instead, try leaving a short list of “Please do this or that.” Make your home a haven for him, not a work house!
- Interact with your kids. It’s so easy to push away the kids when things are busy and frantic, isn’t it? But a few small changes here and there can help you interact with your kids on a daily basis. Wait to make phone calls and write emails after the kids are tucked in their beds. Your little treasures are only little for a short time. Take a few extra minutes and answer their questions of curiosity. Take, “Go watch a movie,” out of your vocabulary. If you have more than three children, consider assigning a special time once a week for each child. Use this time to do something special or just talk. Making time for each child is so important!
- Exercise. Oh yeah, this has been on my to-do list for how long now? When you exercise (consistently) you have more energy to play with your kids, more energy to chase and tickle your hubby and more energy to work hard and create a clean, happy home. Of course, there are the vain, positive affects too of just looking better!
- Invite more people over. It takes time, thought and energy to become hospitable. Many people opt out of this characteristic of a Christian wife and mom altogether. It seems no one wants to stay up, clean their house and prepare Sunday dinner for visitors anymore. A little extra time, thought and effort will pay out great dividends as you offer that hungry, growing family with lots of kiddos a nice, hot meal and fellowship. Watch eyes light up and smiles broaden as people accept your spontaneous invitation to lunch or dinner. Never forget to entertain and show hospitality. Put others first and yourself last!
- Dive into God’s word. I am amazed when I see the “One Minute Bible for Women.” What are people thinking? How about the one minute movie, the one minute shopping trip, the one minute facial, the one minute back massage, the one minute bath, etc. People today are so busy in their own lives–or so they think–that God’s word is left on the shelf. Women will smile and feel good about themselves as they grab their one verse for the day. Yes, they are a true Christian. Invest your time in God’s word. It is the most profitable investment a person can make. Set the alarm and wake up earlier, give up nap time or other extra activities, stay up later and grab some golden nuggets from God’s word. It is through God’s word and His strength that you will have the desire to make your home a happier place for everyone!
- Stop complaining.
“Yeah, I can’t afford a new car right now, but I sure would like one.”
“Oh great, another four years with this president.”
“Why can’t my kids be as good as the Smith kids?”
“The economy is so bad right now. I can’t go to my favorite restaurant three times a week!”
“I have to wear the same winter clothes from last year.”
No one enjoys to hear people grumble and complain. Things could be a lot worse. Focus on the good things in your life, and try to deal with the unplanned, unpleasant circumstances with the best attitude possible.
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