“Just a SAHM? What a waste!” I still remember those words stinging me as a super-young 18-year-old girl who finally knew her direction in life. Looking back now, its clear what I gave up to be a SAHM.
My heart is still saddened for moms who absolutely have to work outside the home. Either their spouses want them to work outside the home, they’re a single mom or there’s no other way to get food on the table. But, I do know 11 reasons why most women can afford to be a SAHM — maybe you should check that out if you think there’s no possible way to work it out financially. You may be surprised!
I’m not here to start another mommy war or to put moms down who work outside the home, but I would like people to know what I and other moms give up to be a sahm. I want them to see the sacrifices we make every single day to be ever-present in our children’s and husband’s lives. Or, maybe they’re mot really sacrifices at all? Maybe they’re crazy wonderful perks that no one talks about! You decide!
What I Gave Up to be a SAHM
- Listening to curse words on a daily basis. It’s not very often I get to her curse words or God’s name taken in vain since I am with my children all day. We don’t watch movies or shows where curse words are prevalent, so yes, my days are lacking the sound of those uneducated, non-God fearing words. The strongest language that comes to my ears throughout the day consists of words like “shut-up” or “stupid” — even though those are not allowed in our home!
- Facing rush-hour traffic. I spend my mornings getting breakfast cleaned up, kids dressed, and home-school activities and curriculum laid out. I also have time to make beds and get the floors swept and mopped. Then, once or twice a week, I go to the grocery store and drive in the ever-so-slow 10 am traffic. It’s really relaxing to drive in that type of almost non-existent traffic. And the lines at the grocery store? Super short. It’s a win!
- Having to leave sick kids at home. No one is expecting me to show up at 8 or 9 am every single morning. When my kids have a fever, cold or sore tummy, I’m able to cuddle up with them, read them stories, give them popsicles and let them know that this too will pass.
- Handing over 75% of my paycheck to childcare. I have six kids, so child care would be astronomical! But, hey, I do have a paycheck from my wahm business — but I don’t have to hand it over to a daycare facility, nanny or private school. I get to use it in other ways to help my family!
- Facing a hungry family at the end of a stressful day. Being a sahm enables me to plan my meals and be prepared when dinner comes. Many times I make a big lunch that we can eat for dinner as well so the evenings are much more relaxed. We can focus on an easy clean-up, fun time together as a family and a quiet evening. We rarely buy fast food for our family when we’re not traveling. There’s something special about having the entire family crowding around a table enjoying food you’ve prepared with your own hands.
- Loads of stranger’s germs. Since I stay at home with my family, I don’t come in contact with many people during the week. That really cuts down on the germs I’m exposed too — and help keeps the doctor’s visits to a minimum too!
- Only hearing about my child’s first steps and words. No one has to relay to me that my child said “bite” for the first time — because I heard it for the first time. I was also there when she took her first step — and I even got it on camera!
- Hearing about other people’s intimate lives. The workplace many times, unless you’re in a Christian atmosphere, is full of trashy talk — including intimate lives between husbands and wives. I have had personal friends joke and tell me that they knew about a co-worker’s intimate life. And their co-worker? It was a man. That’s totally uncalled for, out of place and definitely can lead to sinful behavior. I’m glad that the majority of conversations I overhear are about whether or not Spiderman can actually climb walls. Yeah, I can handle listening to that!
- Missing my husband’s holidays from work. Don’t you love it when your husband gets a holiday from work? Being a sahm means that when his holidays come, you take a holiday too. You take the day to enjoy him and put everything else on hold. Life’s too short not to enjoy those happy, fun moments together!
- Not being available to bail my husband out of a pinch. My husband knows if he forgets a tie, important papers or his lunch that he can call on me and I’ll bail him out. He also knows if he needs a phone number or something ironed before he gets home, I’ll be there to get it done. This is one of my favorite parts of being a sahm I feel like my husband’s personal assistant — and I love, love LOVE being that! I love that he knows he’s first in my life and not planning another work project — though I have those too!
Before I became a WAHM I had very little income that came in on a regular basis. There were many difficult financial days, and yes, we weren’t able to take vacations or even shopping trips. Christmas and birthdays were very simple with homemade cakes and a super small present like a jug of chocolate milk. We made those sacrifices so that I could stay home. But when I think of the other things I gave up to be a sahm — it doesn’t seem like such a big sacrifice after all!
Dear mom, if you want to stay at home and enjoy these blessings, why not check out these ways to make income from home — or these ideas on how to earn money from home right now. And be sure to stay tuned! A close blogger friend of mine and I are working on an in-depth WAHM course that’s full of printables, videos and challenges to help you build a successful work at home mom career so that you too can know the joy of being a stay-at-home-mom!
Nad if you’re a stay-at-home mom and you’re in a rut, not thriving and lacking direction — here’s a heart-to-heart post that talks just about how to start thriving once again! It’ll will help get you back on track and start loving the privilege of being a stay at home mom!
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