How I Spend One-on-one Time With My Kids

One-on-one Time With Each Child is So Important!

We have a big family!

But I’m convinced that every child needs undivided attention.

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Each and every one.

Because I can forget about individual time with the kids in the midst of daily busyness.

Clean, cook, teach, run errands, rinse and repeat.

That’s what my life often looks like!

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There’s One Simple Way I Give Kids Undivided Attention

About 12 years ago I found the answer to juggling quality time with each precious child.

But it wasn’t my idea!

I just tweaked someone else’s idea a bit!

A mother of five crazy-happy children impacted me in a way I’ll never forget.

She was a SAHM and home-schooled her five children.

She also did the yard-work and housework.

She was busy — to say the least.

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I had one 15 month old and another baby on the way.

I could not fathom how that mom got everything done!

One day we were chatting on the phone and one of her kiddos interrupted and asked, “Mom, whose day is it today?”

After a short pause, she answered, “It’s Sarah’s.”

She then explained to me that she has a special day assigned to each of her kids per week.

Oooh…sounds like a super-mom thing to do.

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I was interested.

Do tell me more, I quietly thought…so she did!

Why did she spend one-on-one time with each child?

She found it was difficult to invest one-on-one time with her kids, and so she simply scheduled it in!

Making a time slot for each child kept her dedicated and committed to invest personal time with them.

It was obvious the kids highly anticipated their special day every single week!

The kids were loving, engaged, social and always seemed like a happy bunch!

One on One Time Helps Create Happy Kids!

Many times you would see this mom out and about, and you would be sure to see a smiling kid or two alongside her.

Even though she had her hands full, she made sure that each child had a special time with mom.

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After seeing her success with this simple plan, I decided to jump on board!

There have been times where we’ve skipped a day or changed things up a bit, but this is the basic schedule and plan we follow.

It’s worked for several years and have helped my kiddos and I develop a strong parent/child bond.

Each kid is special, so each kid should get that one-on-one time with mom or dad — don’t you think?

Check out my simple, yet fun plan that my kids have come to love!

One Simple Way I Spend One-on-one Time With My Kids

Assign each kid one night per week.

If you have more than seven kids, you may have to double up or do twice a month instead of every week.

Extend the bedtime!

On the child’s assigned night, he or she is allowed to stay up an extra 30 minutes past bedtime.

That time is specially reserved for mom and child.

This special time can be spent cuddling, reading, talking, snacking or watching a short movie.

Any activity that you and your children enjoy connecting over is perfect for this mommy/child time.

Each family is different and you know what fun activities keep your family glued together!

Plan a fun meal!

On that child’s night, let your child help you plan dinner.

Do they love pizza, spaghetti or hamburgers?

Incorporate their favorites into the meal and let them help you prepare the meal.

They can also choose to set the table in a special way or fun theme.

This gives extra chatting and teaching time for the two of you!

If the budget allows, I also like to surprise the kiddo with a small toy or treat on their assigned day. It doesn’t happen every week!

The kiddos have learned that if surprises fit in mom’s budget and schedule — they will come!

No one is disappointed if the surprises don’t come, only delightfully surprised if they do!

I am so glad I heard about this plan when I only had two kids.

I made a note of it and tucked it away in my heart.

I didn’t start using this plan until I had six kids, and only started with the oldest four children.

It really works and gives the kids something simple and special to look forward to every week.

Have You found a way to Connect Daily With each of your Kids?

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9 thoughts on “How I Spend One-on-one Time With My Kids”

  1. I feel silly that I didn’t think of these simple steps myself! thank you so much. My kids have been begging for mom time. This could be something I think I can keep up with.
    Thank you so much!

  2. GREAT suggestions that I can’t wait to try! (I only have three littles, but I love the idea of giving them each one night a week!)

    Thank you so much!

  3. Thank you so much for this post. I work full time and when I return home there is always something that needs to be done. I am going to give this idea a try. Thanks again.

  4. I have two children, but im having such a hard time trying to find some time to spend with them.
    I go to school at night, and then i leave school and go straight to a full time night job, so when i get home the only thing on my mind is going to sleep. I try to spend as much time with them as i can, but my son is beginning to have some behavior problems and my daughter has been an emotional crying mess about everything lately, and i think that it’s from me being gone so much. Any Advice??

  5. I’m a single mom of an 8 year old and a 3 year old -on a budget so it’s not always an elaborate evening out but,!!!!…. on their birth “day” of each month, I make care arrangements for one and take the other on a date!

    1. I like this idea! Their birth DAY…. I have 5 and to think every weeknight I have to entertain AND get the house in order is a but much but one day a month for each kid? Genius! Thanks for sharing!

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