How to Help Intimacy in Your Marriage
Who is my ultimate hero in the realm of motherhood and marriage?
It’s definitely the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31.
I can glean so much from her character and godly traits.
But, you know what?
I can also learn from an enemy of all married women — the strange woman.
Today we also refer to her as the “other” woman.
The woman that has stolen many, many husbands and ruined marriages.
Why Would I Take Intimacy Tips from the Other Woman?
It’s quite simple, actually.
Her tempting powers are so alluring that men find it difficult to turn her away.
I want to use those same tempting powers in my marriage.
I want my husband to desire me and enjoy his wife.
Remember this passage in the Bible?
“Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Proverbs 5:19.
I love the thought of my husband being ravished with my love.
What about you?
Do you want to be desired by your husband?
Do you want thoughts of you to fill his mind throughout the day?
You know what saddens me?
When I hear a married woman say with disgust in her voice, “Ugh! Nobody wants a man pawing after her all the time!”
Well, I disagree.
Except for crazy sick days, I enjoy my husband “pawing” after me.
You are truly missing out if you don’t enjoy showing physical affection with your spouse.
And by the way, you both need frequent, intimate relations.
You both need to feel desired, loved and needed.
And you know what else?
If you don’t find passionate intimacy in marriage, you will be tempted to find it elsewhere. (I Corinthians 7:5)
Dig down deep into your heart and asked yourself this question: do you want your husband to turn off the TV, phone ,or computer just to spend some time with you?
Some of you may think it’s not possible, but it really is!
It just takes a little more effort on your part, and trust me, it’s worth it!
Was the strange woman in Proverbs 7 able to distract a man so much that he had tunnel vision only for her?
Yes, she sure did.
But, HOW did she do it?
Tips for Wives About Intimacy in Marriage
These Tips Were All Learned from the Strange Woman in the book of Proverbs.
Intimacy in Marriage Tip #1: Wear Seductive and Provocative clothing.
The strange woman in Proverbs wasn’t wearing sweatpants or a stained t-shirt.
You know what catches your husband’s attention — wear that!
I know life is busy and chaotic at times, but grab a few moments before he comes home and greet him with an appearance he will hate to turn his eyes away from.
If you want his affection, love and desire, you have to work for it.
Shower, shave your legs, put on something racey (barely there, see through, and black are all good options!), style your hair, and enjoy dressing for your husband!
You’ll enjoy looking beautiful too!
Intimacy in Marriage Tip #2: Go After Your Husband.
Most likely your husband doesn’t always want to chase after you for intimacy.
You need to change things up a bit and go after him.
Surprise him when your kids are sound asleep and make him feel desired, wanted, and craved.
He needs to know that you want him.
Don’t let him forget it!
Intimacy in Marriage Tip #3: Build Up Your Husband.
No man is going to spend time with a woman who pushes him down with her words.
Stop criticizing your husband now and praise him often.
Do you think he looks great in that new shirt?
Does he provide well for you?
Are his eyes absolutely gorgeous?
Don’t let him forget it!
Does his smile make you melt?
Let him know.
Don’t be worried that by praising him too much that he’ll become arrogant and proud.
That is one of the silliest notions I have ever heard — But I HAVE heard it!
The world outside your home is full of enough critics.
Welcome your husband with praise, acceptance and admiration.
He’ll want to come home and spend hours with you — frequently!
Intimacy in Marriage Tip #4: Kiss Him
It’s super sad when I hear about married couples who no longer kiss — or only enjoy a pop kiss at best.
Kiss your husband often, long, deliberately, and passionately.
You’ll get his attention for sure!
Intimacy in Marriage Tip #5: Prepare a Place for Intimacy.
The strange woman in Proverbs 7 thinks of all the right details.
She met the man in that chapter with seductive clothing, praised him, kissed him, and she even planned ahead by preparing a room with fine linens that smelled oh-so-enchanting.
I know life gets busy, but make your bedroom an inviting place for your husband.
If you invest in any room in your home, I highly recommend investing in your bedroom.
A soft and inviting bed, attractive decor, and an delicious aroma will keep your husband spending more and more time with you in this special place.
We can definitely learn marriage intimacy tip from the “bad women” of the Bible.
Surprise your husband today and ravish him with your love!